...Protecting the Nigerian Child from Sexual Abuse

Parenting Coaching

The more knowledge parents have about Child Sexual Abuse, the greater the likelihood they can create safer environments for their children and thus prevent the occurrence of sexual exploitation. To this end, we seek to heighten awareness of the hidden epidemic of child sexual abuse through personal coaching, community and school based talks directed at parents.

Dr. Nimi speaking at a School Organized Event

1 in 4 girls will be a Victim

Learn the Signs

spotting child sexual abuse can be quite difficult because perpetrators will most likely take steps to hide their actions. Some signs are easier to spot than others.  Listen to your instincts. If you notice something that isn’t right or you feel uncomfortable when this particular person is around your child—even if you can’t put your finger on why—it’s important to have a chat with the child immediately.

PHYSICAL WARNING SIGNS:

  • – Sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
  • – Signs of trauma to the genital area, such as unexplained bleeding, bruising, or blood on the sheets

BEHAVIORAL SIGNS:

  • – Sexual behavior that is inappropriate for the child’s age
  • – Bedwetting or soiling the bed, if the child has already outgrown these behaviors
  • – Not wanting to be left alone with certain people or being afraid to be away from primary caregivers, especially if this is a new behavior
  • – Tries to avoid removing clothing to change or bathe

EMOTIONAL SIGNS:

  • – Excessive talk about or knowledge of sexual topics
  • – Resuming behaviors that they had grown out of, such as thumbsucking
  • – Nightmares or fear of being alone at night
  • – Excessive worry or fearfulness

SIGNS THAT AN ADULT MAY BE HURTING A CHILD

Be cautious of an adult who spend time with children and exhibits the following behaviors:

  • – Does not respect boundaries or listen when someone tells them “no”
  • – Engages in touching that a child or child’s parents/guardians have indicated is unwanted
  • – Tries to be a child’s friend rather than filling an adult role in the child’s life
  • – Does not seem to have age-appropriate relationships
  • – Talks with children about their personal problems or relationships
  • – Spends time alone with children outside of their role in the child’s life or makes up excuses to be alone with the child
  • – Expresses unusual interest in child’s sexual development, such as commenting on sexual characteristics or sexualizing normal behaviors
  • – Gives a child gifts without occasion or reason
  • – Spends a lot of time with your child or another child you know

STATISTICS

Understanding these facts about child sexual abuse can help you better protect the children in your life

60%

of abuse occurs within the family of the child

30%

of abuse occurs within known faces familiar with the family, remaining 10% are strangers

1 in 10

girls will be victims of child sexual abuse

4 in 10

boys will be victims of child sexual abuse